Funeral Services for Captain Paul Smith were held on Saturday, and you have never seen such a big turnout to say goodbye to someone. I knew how much Paul had touched my life, and the life of his boys, Cory and Cale, and his wife Donna ... to them he was the world's greatest father and husband. To me, he was MY pilot and father figure. But when you see several hundred people gather to bid farewell, you really find out how many lives he touched. People in the aviation industry flew in from across the country to pay their respects, which tells me how much more Paul was than even I realized. We teased him endlessly about being "Captain Safety," but he really was a prominent figure in the helicopter world, and will be sorely missed.
After speaking with so many friends and family at the service, I found out how many people have turned to Channel 7 to keep updated on how the family is doing. So this is for them.
I am speaking with the boys, and checking in on Donna, and they are doing as well as can be expected. While the road to recovery is still a long one, Donna is getting some of her fiestiness back. She is still in some pain, but every day is better than the last one. Of course, she is still in the hospital, and was unable to attend the services. But the boys bent over backwards to make sure she could be a part of the services, and have a chance at closure. Paul would have been so proud of how his boys handled all the arrangements. I don't even think he realized how well he raised them. With a little help from me, and a lot of help from John, they managed to get a video feed to Donna at the hospital so that she could be there, even though miles away. And we were all touched at the service when Paul's nephew took out a piece of paper with thoughts on it, written by Donna earlier in the day. The family asked that I share her sentiments with you, because while most Channel 7 viewers were not at the services, the family has been well aware of your thoughts and prayers, and her words were meant f or you as well:
I want to thank all of you for your support and care. Along with myself, Paul, Cory and Cale have been blessed with loving family and friends. You came to us without hesitation, and guided Cory and Cale to do what they have to do. I can't thank you more for helping them through this difficulty that's in front of them. I am so proud. The value of friends and family can't be expressed enough on a piece of paper. It needs to be shown every day.
THAT day, while we were taking the train to NYC - when Joel Olsen's poster came into sight "Have a Better Life," Paul turned to me and said "I'm your Joel Olsen. I have that positive attitude. I laughed again and he said, "No, really. I'm that best thing that happened to you!" I looked into his eyes - really looked, and said, "Yes, Paul, you are." I added, "You know why that is? Because we remained friends. Somehow you can get through if you have stuck together as friends."
Paul was a great guy. Sometimes annoying, and sometimes silly ... for instance, walking around with his IPOD singing off tune to songs, or going to EVERY occassion wearing his ABC jacket (not again)!! "But, Donna, it's a GREAT jacket!!" Paul would say.
I could go on and on, but I won't.
Thank you all again for being who you are. We love you deeply.
Love,
Donna and Paul
Paul, I'll miss you with every beat of my heart.
I hope that sharing this with the viewers will help you understand what a close knit family Paul, Donna, Cory and Cale are, and how much they meant to each other. Flying with Paul for ten years, and seeing these words from Donna, has made my husband and I stop and take stock. They really did live life as best friends, and it did get them through everything. I think we could all learn a little from them, and maybe all be in a happier place if we take their philosophy with us.
As for me, I am getting back in the air today. I'm nervous about it, and am afraid I am going to hate doing this job without Paul. But Cory has a best friend named Anthony, and his Dad gave me the inspiration to get back up there. He pointed out to me that Paul and I were fortunate enough to have learned the job together, and Paul would have wanted me to take the knowledge I gained with him, and impart it on someone new. That's how I can make sure his legend lives on. I know it'll never be the same again ... but it will be, and that's what Paul would have wanted.